What do we need to get married in Florida?

To get married in Florida, you need to obtain a marriage license from a County Clerk of Court's office. Here are the key requirements: Marriage License Application • Appear in Person: Both applicants must apply together in person at a Clerk of Court's office in any county in Florida. • Alternative option for Out-of-State residents: You may choose to use a third-party “Marriage by Mail” service to have the marriage license application sent to you. If you select this option, you must complete and have the application notarized in your home state, then you must remember to bring the notarized document with you when you travel to Florida. A ceremony will not be legally binding if you do not have your marriage license with you. Please be aware that this process may require additional time, extra fees, and requires you to share personal information with a third-party provider. • Identification: Each person must present a valid, non-expired, government-issued photo ID (Driver's license from any state, passport, U.S. military ID, or State ID card). • Social Security Number: U.S. citizens must provide their Social Security number (you don't need to bring the card, just the number). Non-U.S. citizens may provide an Alien Registration Card or passport number if they don't have a Social Security number. • Previous Marriages: If either party has been married before, you must provide the exact date (month, day, and year) and manner in which the last marriage ended (divorce, death, or annulment). You do not need to provide copies of divorce decrees or death certificates. • Family Law Handbook: Both parties must read the Florida Family Law Handbook and sign an affidavit stating they have done so. You will also be required to swear under oath that all information provided is true and correct to the best of your knowledge. • Age: Both parties must be at least 18 years old. (There are very specific and limited exceptions for 17-year-olds.) • Residency: You do not need to be a resident of Florida to apply. Fees and Waiting Period • Fee: The standard fee for a marriage license is approximately $86.00 (this can vary slightly by county). • Reduced Fee: The fee is reduced to about $61.00 for couples who provide proof of completing a registered four-hour premarital preparation course. • Waiting Period: There is a (consecutive) three-day waiting period (the ceremony may occur on the fourth day) between the time the license is issued and when the ceremony can take place if one or both parties are Florida residents. This waiting period is waived if: 1. Both applicants are non-Florida residents. 2. The couple provides a certificate of completion for a registered premarital preparation course. The Marriage Ceremony • Validity: The marriage license is valid for 60 days from the issue date, and the ceremony must be performed within that time. • Officiant: The ceremony must be performed by an authorized person, such as: • An ordained minister, priest, rabbi, or other ordained clergy. • A judicial officer (judge, retired judge). • A Clerk of the Circuit Court or a deputy clerk. • A public notary of the State of Florida. • Return of License: After the ceremony, the person who performed the marriage (the officiant) is responsible for returning the signed marriage license to the Clerk of Court's office within 10 days to be recorded. The couple also has the option to file on their own behalf if they wish. However, please note that if filing on your own behalf, the county must receive your signed marriage license within 10 days (not 10 business days, 10 consecutive days) of the performed ceremony. It is always a good idea to check the specific requirements with the Clerk of Court's office in the county where you plan to apply, as minor procedural details can sometimes vary. Here is a link to the Sarasota County Clerk's office for more information on marriage licenses: https://www.sarasotaclerk.com/about-us/marriage-services. (https://www.sarasotaclerk.com/about-us/marriage-services.) Rings • Wedding rings are optional; however, it is customary for the couple to present them at the ceremony so they may be formally exchanged as part of the ritual.

Is a permit required for our wedding ceremony?

Regarding Public Beaches Only: Why a permit is usually required: • Public Safety and Environmental Protection: Permits help local authorities manage beach usage, ensure public safety, and protect the natural environment. • Regulations on Setup: Even a small elopement often involves a photographer with equipment, and some beaches regulate any kind of "setup" (like an arch, chairs, or even just professional photography equipment) that might impact public access or use of the beach. • Commercial Activity: A professional photographer and officiant could be considered commercial activity on public property, which often requires a permit. Specific to Sarasota County (which includes Siesta Key and Lido Key): • Siesta Key and Lido Key: These popular beaches in Sarasota County definitely require permits for weddings. The fees vary ($195-$250 for Lido Key Beach and $400-$475 for a wedding at Siesta Key Beach). • Even without an arch or chairs: Even if you don't set up an arch or chairs, a permit might still be required if you have professional vendors (like a photographer) or if the ceremony is considered an "event" on the beach. However, no permit is required for your simple elopement or vow renewal ceremony, but a permit is required to set up a wedding arch, chairs & aisle decor. It's best to confirm directly with Sarasota County Parks and Recreation. • Sarasota County Parks and Recreation: This is the authority to contact for permits (including public beach and public park ceremonies) in Sarasota County. Their number is: 941-861-7275 or 941-861-9930. You can often obtain permits over the phone with a credit card. General Florida Beach Wedding Permit Information: • Vary by County/City: The rules are determined by the specific county or city where the beach is located, it's not a "blanket state law". • Attendance Thresholds: Many places have a threshold (e.g., over 25 people) where a permit becomes explicitly required, but even below that, if you have any "set up" or commercial vendors, a permit is often necessary. • No Blocking Public Access: Regardless of a permit, you generally cannot block off any public areas of the beach. • Check with the Specific Beach: Always, always, always contact the local county or city parks and recreation department for the specific beach you plan to use. They will have the most accurate and up-to-date information on permit requirements, fees, and any restrictions (like amplified sound or specific decorations). ***Some parks, including Bay Preserve at Osprey, may require permits.*** We recommend couples reach out to the county directly, as they can best answer questions with the details the couple provides.

When will we receive our official marriage certificate after the wedding?

Once your ceremony is complete, our officiant will sign and file your marriage license with the county on the same day (or the next business day if the ceremony is performed after hours), provided you have chosen us to handle the filing for you on your behalf. The county will process and mail your official marriage certificate, complete with the gold seal, within 2 to 3 weeks of receiving the marriage license application. Processing times may vary depending on the volume of applications, your location and holiday closures, so you may receive it sooner or later than this timeframe.

Can we file the marriage license after the ceremony ourselves?

Yes! The couple may choose to file their signed marriage license directly with the county on their own, either by mail or in person. If filing by mail, the official marriage certificate is typically mailed directly from the county to the couple within two to three weeks from the date the county receives the paperwork. If filing in person, your official marriage certificate is typically issued the same day. Please be advised that the signed marriage license is required to be received by the county within 10 days of the completed ceremony.

Where can we complete our premarital course?

If you’re planning to marry in Sarasota County, you can complete your premarital preparation course through a variety of state-approved providers. Completing this course not only helps you prepare for married life, but it also lets you avoid the Florida 3-day waiting period and get a reduced marriage license fee when you submit your certificate with your application. Options for Completing Your Course ✔️ Online Premarital Courses Many couples choose online state-approved courses that you can complete at your own pace. These typically take about 4 hours and provide a certificate once finished. Be sure the course issues a valid certificate for Florida marriage license purposes. ✔️ In-Person or Counselor-Led Courses Licensed counselors and therapists in Sarasota can also lead premarital education that qualifies under Florida law. These can be personalized and interactive if you prefer an in-person experience. Examples of Local Sarasota Relationship & Counseling Professionals (may offer premarital counseling or training): (Tip: Before enrolling or scheduling, confirm with the provider that their premarital course satisfies the Florida premarital preparation requirements for a reduced fee and waiting period.) Requirements and Process 1. Select a Provider: Ensure the provider is registered with your County Clerk.(https://www.flclerks.com/page/HDI_Marriage_License) 2. Complete 4 Hours: Florida law requires the course to be at least four hours long. 3. Get Your Certificate: Upon completion, you will receive a Certificate of Completion, often delivered instantly via email. 4. Apply for License: Present your certificate to the Clerk of Court (https://hillsclerk.com/pre-marital-course-providers)when applying for your marriage license to receive the fee reduction and skip the 3-day wait. We’re happy to share a list of premarital counseling services, available both in person and online, to support you as you prepare for your special day. Simply reach out to receive the details.

What are your top recommendations for elopement locations?

When selecting an elopement location in the Sarasota area, Siesta Key Beach, Lido Key Beach, and Longboat Key Beach stand out as the top beach destinations. FYI - Lido Key Beach and Longboat Key Beach are more secluded compared to Siesta Key Beach as they are not as well known as Siesta Key Beach. For couples dreaming of a park or garden-style setting, popular choices include Bay Preserve at Osprey (Big Waters Land Trust), Phillippi Estate Park, Bayfront Park, Bird Key Park, and The Bay Park. For something a little more unique, downtown Sarasota (SRQ) offers unique elopement spots such as the Unconditional Surrender Statue and the Dolphin Fountain.

Do you only officiate Christian ceremonies?

While we do not oppose secular ceremonies, our ceremonies are rooted in our faith and the covenant made between a man, a woman, and God.

Do you only officiate small weddings?

Yes. We specialize in intimate weddings, from simple beach and park elopements to small ceremonies at popular private venues. A typical intimate wedding includes no more than 25 guests. Our focus is on the unique beauty and personal connection that smaller celebrations offer, typically including the couple and their closest loved ones. In addition to public elopements, we officiate intimate weddings at a variety of private venues. Some popular choices include: Michael's on East, Marie Selby Botanical Gardens, Mote Marine Laboratory & Aquarium, and The Ringling Museum. We also perform ceremonies at other private locations like the Sarasota Opera House, Sarasota Garden Club, The Van Wezel, private boats, golf courses, resorts, and ranches.

Do you offer your officiating services outside of Sarasota?

We offer wedding and ceremony officiating services exclusively within Sarasota and Manatee Counties, covering locations within a 30-mile radius of Downtown Sarasota. Hillsborough, Pinellas, Charlotte, and all other counties are outside of our service area. Please note: travel fees may apply. Ceremony locations within Sarasota—such as Siesta Key Beach, Lido Key Beach, Longboat Key Beach, Bay Preserve at Osprey, Phillippi Estate Park, Osprey, Turtle Beach, and other Sarasota locations—will not incur travel fees. Locations outside of Sarasota but still within a 30-mile radius, including Anna Maria Island, Bradenton, Venice, Nokomis Beach, Coquina Beach, Bradenton Beach, and similar areas, will require a travel fee. Travel fees vary depending on the specific location. If your ceremony includes a travel fee, you will be notified prior to booking. If you’re unsure whether your ceremony location falls within our service area, please reach out—we are happy to help!

Is there a travel fee?

Yes, travel fees apply to ceremonies held outside of Sarasota, Florida, but within a 30-mile radius of Downtown Sarasota. Travel fees vary by location. For example, ceremonies at Nokomis Beach, Coquina Beach, Bradenton Beach and similar locations incur a $25 travel fee, while weddings at Anna Maria Island, Venice Beach, Myakka City, and comparable areas incur a $50 travel fee. Ceremony locations within Sarasota—such as Siesta Key Beach, Lido Key Beach, Longboat Key Beach, Bay Preserve at Osprey, Phillippi Estate Park, Osprey, Turtle Beach, and other Sarasota locations—will not incur travel fees. We will always inform you of the applicable travel fee and the total cost before you book.

Can you recommend photographers, videographers, H&MUA, musicians, or décor vendors?

Yes! Since we specialize in à la carte ceremony officiant services, we are delighted to recommend other vendors for your elopement or intimate wedding. Just let us know what you need, and we'll send over a list of our recommendations.

Do you have any restaurant recommendations for post-celebration dining?

Whether you are looking for a sophisticated soirée or a lively party, the Sarasota area offers fantastic options to celebrate your "I do's". For a sophisticated and elegant celebration, consider the Chart House on Longboat Key. Its beautiful waterfront setting provides a memorable backdrop. Marina Jack in Sarasota is another popular choice, offering stunning bay views and a refined atmosphere. St. Armand's Circle also offers an exquisite and upscale experience with its unique shops and dining. If you are a fun and free-spirited couple seeking a vibrant atmosphere, Downtown Sarasota is an excellent choice for celebrating with friends and family. You will find a variety of restaurants, bars, and entertainment options. For a truly fun-loving, beachy vibe, Siesta Key Village is the perfect spot to continue the festivities, with its casual eateries, live music, and proximity to the famous Siesta Key Beach.

What alternative arrangements do you suggest in case of inclement weather?

When we plan your perfect day, we will be thrilled to brainstorm alternative arrangements with you!

Does the officiant step out of the way for the big kiss at the end?

Yes! Our officiant steps out of the way for the big kiss at the end of the ceremony, so the couple can have a private moment and so the photographer can get a perfect shot of "the kiss".

What is the cost for a Vow Renewal or Commitment Ceremony?

Vow renewals and commitment ceremonies are beautiful moments! Since these ceremonies are typically simpler and not legally binding, we are happy to offer the officiating of these for $200.

How is a commitment ceremony different from a wedding?

The key difference is that commitment ceremonies are not legally binding. A commitment ceremony allows two people to publicly declare their love and dedication without legal obligations. Unlike a legal marriage, it doesn't require a marriage license, so the couple's marital status remains unchanged. This option is great for those who want to avoid legal complexities or simply prefer a private bond. Commitment ceremonies offer flexibility and can be personalized fully, often including vows, rings, and celebrations with loved ones. A Christian commitment ceremony is similar but includes a declaration in the presence of God.

What is a Declaration of Consent and is it required?

A legal marriage ceremony must include a declaration of consent, also known as a declaration of intent or a declaration of commitment, which is a core legal requirement in most states. This is the part of the ceremony where both people verbally affirm their desire to willingly and freely enter into the marriage contract. While the traditional phrase is "I do," the specific wording can be customized as long as it clearly conveys this intent. This declaration is a legal necessity, not just a tradition, and is what makes the marriage valid and legally binding. It's important to distinguish it from personal vows, which are promises a couple makes to each other but are not typically a legal requirement. The wedding officiant's job is to ensure the declaration of consent is made and to witness the ceremony and sign the marriage license.

How far in advance do we need to book?

Some couples contact us at the last minute due to last minute changes or emergencies, while others book 6–8 months in advance. As long as the officiant is available and has enough time to write your personalized ceremony, you are welcome to book whenever you are ready.

Do you have any advice for a stress-free wedding?

Absolutely! We’re big fans of keeping things simple... So, all you truly need to get married are yourselves, your rings, a valid marriage license from the County Clerk's Office, and an officiant to lead the way. Everything else is just icing on the wedding cake!

Do you have any good marriage advise?

Absolutely! One of the best pieces of marriage advice Ann and her husband ever received was written in their guest book by an anonymous guest during their intimate wedding day: "Remember, it's never you two against each other — it's you two against the problem." What a powerful reminder. Marriage isn’t about winning arguments or keeping score. It’s about unity. When challenges come (and they will), the goal is to stand side by side, not face to face. And from a faith-based perspective, Ann always says: "A marriage built on faith, can withstand any storm." When Christ is at the center, love deepens, grace grows, and forgiveness flows more freely. Faith gives you something steady to hold onto when emotions feel unsteady. Marriage is a covenant — not just between two people, but with God woven beautifully through it. And that kind of foundation changes everything.

Does the officiant have any visible tattoos?

Great question — a lot of couples ask this when thinking about how their photos will look. No, the officiant does not have any tattoos.

Does the officiant read from a tablet or device?

Our officiant reads from a printed hard copy of your ceremony, using a professional portfolio as a cover. Although digital devices are convenient, we prioritize reliability to ensure your ceremony proceeds without disruption.

Writing the Perfect Vows for Your Elopement

abunn187
Feb 12
4 min read

Eloping offers a unique opportunity to create a deeply personal and intimate wedding experience. One of the most meaningful parts of this special day is writing your own vows. Crafting the perfect vows for your elopement allows you to express your love, promises, and commitment in a way that truly reflects your relationship. This guide will help you write heartfelt and memorable vows that resonate with both you and your partner.

Tips for Writing Elopement Vows

Writing elopement vows can feel overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be complicated. Here are some practical tips to help you get started:

Reflect on your relationship: Think about what makes your bond unique. What moments have defined your journey together? Use these reflections as inspiration.
Keep it personal and authentic: Speak from the heart. Avoid clichés and focus on what truly matters to you both.
Set the tone: Decide if you want your vows to be romantic, humorous, poetic, or a mix of these. Your tone should match your personalities.
Be concise: Aim for 1-2 minutes when spoken aloud. This keeps your vows impactful and easy to remember.
Include promises: Vows are about commitment. Think about the promises you want to make for your future together.
Practice reading aloud: This helps you hear how your words flow and make adjustments if needed.

By following these tips, you can create vows that feel genuine and meaningful.

Eye-level view of a handwritten vow book on a wooden table — Handwritten vow book on wooden table

Writing Elopement Vows: A Step-by-Step Guide

Writing your vows can be broken down into manageable steps to make the process less intimidating:

Brainstorm ideas
Start by jotting down words, phrases, and memories that come to mind when you think about your partner and your relationship.
Choose a structure
Common vow structures include:
A brief story or memory
What your partner means to you
The promises you want to make
A closing statement or hope for the future

Write a draft
Don’t worry about perfection on the first try. Write freely and get your thoughts on paper.
Edit and refine
Read your draft aloud. Cut unnecessary words, clarify your promises, and ensure your tone feels right.
Finalize and memorize
Once you’re happy with your vows, practice them until you feel comfortable delivering them naturally.

This step-by-step approach helps you stay organized and focused while writing your vows.

What to Say at an Elopement?

Knowing what to say during your elopement ceremony can be challenging, especially if you want your words to be meaningful and memorable. Here are some ideas to guide you:

Start with gratitude: Thank your partner for being in your life and for the journey you’ve shared so far.
Share a personal story: A brief anecdote about your relationship can add warmth and personality.
Express your feelings: Tell your partner what you love most about them.
Make your promises: Clearly state the commitments you are making for your future together.
Look ahead: Share your hopes and dreams for your life as a married couple.

Remember, your words don’t have to be perfect. The sincerity behind them is what truly matters.

Close-up view of wedding rings on a sandy beach — Wedding rings placed on sandy beach

Examples of Vows for Your Elopement

Sometimes, seeing examples can spark your creativity. Here are a few vow examples tailored for intimate elopements:

“From the moment we met, I knew you were my person. Today, I promise to support your dreams, laugh with you in joy, and comfort you in sorrow. I vow to love you without reservation and to grow with you through all of life’s adventures.”
“I promise to be your partner in all things, to listen with compassion, and to speak with honesty. I will cherish you and respect you, through every season and every challenge.”
“With this vow, I give you my heart. I promise to celebrate your successes and stand by you in difficult times. Together, we will build a life filled with love, laughter, and endless memories.”

Feel free to adapt these examples to fit your unique story and style.

Making Your Vows Truly Yours

To make your vows stand out and feel truly yours, consider these additional tips:

Incorporate your location: Mention Sarasota’s beautiful surroundings or a special place you share to add a local touch.
Use meaningful symbols: Reference shared hobbies, favorite books, or inside jokes that only you two understand.
Write separately, then share: Writing your vows independently allows for honest expression. Sharing them before the ceremony can ease nerves.
Keep a copy: Bring a written copy to your ceremony to help you stay calm and focused.

By personalizing your vows, you create a moment that is intimate and unforgettable.

Writing your own vows is a beautiful way to celebrate your love in a meaningful and authentic way. If you want inspiration or guidance, check out this helpful resource on elopement vows.

Embracing the Intimacy of Your Elopement Ceremony

Your elopement is a celebration of your love in its purest form. Writing the perfect vows is just one part of creating a ceremony that feels right for you. Embrace the intimacy, the simplicity, and the joy of this special day. Whether you exchange vows on a quiet beach in Sarasota or a scenic garden, your words will be the heart of your ceremony.

Take your time, speak from the heart, and enjoy the process of writing vows that will be remembered for a lifetime. Your elopement is your story - make your vows a beautiful chapter in it.